What’s Your Safe Word? How to Get Off Without Getting Hurt


You’ve seen the stories in the news – a woman dies during a sex play session with her husband. The articles are vague, but they usually mention the word “kinky,” a kitchen appliance malfunctioning, and the husband being held for questioning. You don’t want this to happen to you. BDSM is fun and … [Read more...]

Tools of the Trade… Your BDSM Shopping List


So are you ready to get your kink on? What will you need? Where are you going to get it? How crazy do you want to be? This article will offer an interesting twist on classic BDSM items, as well as introduce you to a few new possibilities. Hint: I’ve found a new use for four AA batteries, and the … [Read more...]

Are You Dom or Sub? Sexual Compatibility in the Bedroom


“Harder,” I whispered in the dark. He tried to oblige and picked up the pace a bit. “Harder!” I asked again. I needed it rough. With that he stopped mid-thrust and it was game over for the night. “I can’t treat you like that,” he said with disgust. I felt like a freak. This was sex with my … [Read more...]

BDSM 101 – Moving Beyond Plain Vanilla Sex


A male friend of mine told me about something embarrassing that happened to him. He was in the throes of passionate sex with his girlfriend when, in a gesture of instinct, he put his hand over her face. Immediately she froze in horror and blurted, “What are you doing?” Well, how do you answer … [Read more...]

How to Get Your Freak On – The Beginner’s Guide to BDSM


A few months ago, I was talking to my new sex partner about what I liked in bed. “I like it a little rough,” I said, “You know, some hair pulling and some smacks on my butt while we’re having sex.” He sat and pondered this and said, “Have you ever been bent over someone’s knee and … [Read more...]