A fulfilling physical relationship can be amazing. The sex may be great, you may have a high level of physical compatibility, and every time you’re together it reminds you what a great couple you are. But what about beyond that? What would happen if, despite using protection, you suddenly became pregnant? Just because your partner is good in bed doesn’t mean he’ll automatically be good as a dad.
Instead of crossing your fingers and hoping that a journey of nine months will culminate in a wedding or at least a commitment, don’t you think it would be a better idea to find out now, before it’s too late, what kind of man he is and what you and your child would have to look forward to with him? It’s important to know if you’re with a man who understands the potential surprise consequences of sex, and feels an equal and unconditional responsibility no matter what the outcome.
In other words, it’s important to learn whether you have a boy, a guy, or a man.
Boy sees girl, and the first thought in his head is what she would look like naked.
The girl introduces herself, and the boy immediately thinks that she wants him.
The girl gives the boy her phone number, and he’s starting to think that getting laid is a real possibility.
The girl agrees to a date, and the boy decides to bring a condom.
The girl allows a kiss, and the boy pushes it to second base.
The girl gives up and allows the touching, and the boy pushes on until he gets sex.
Sooner or later the girl wants a commitment, and which point the boy starts shopping for other girls.
This sort of story happens most often among teenagers, before either party has recognized their self-worth. Sometimes, however, the adult version of this scenario can have a lot of similarities.
Guy sees gal, and immediately ponders what she would look like naked.
The gal smiles at him, and he knows she’s wanting him.
The gal says she’ll call the guy, but just to be safe he gives her his office voicemail.
The gal sets up a date, and the guy suggests early drinks on a Tuesday, just in case he needs to bail.
The gal pictures their future children, while the guy just hopes she doesn’t talk through the whole date.
The gal initiates sex, and the guy rehearses his story so he can get out of there as soon as possible.
The gal calls the guy constantly, while he thinks, I knew I should have bailed.
The gal writes him off as a typical male pig, while he wonders if she’d be game for some more sex.
Man sees woman, and wonders what she’s aiming for in her life.
The woman opens up a little to him, and the man wonders how genuine she is.
The man asks her out, and the woman accepts without hesitation.
The woman tells the man about her dreams and goals, and the man notes how much they have in common.
The woman notices over time that the man’s actions back up his words, he builds respect.
The man opens up to the woman completely, she drops her drawers.
The woman and man are honest with each other, and do their best to enhance each other’s lives!
To be close to someone is one of the most natural desires in the world, and along with that comes the desire to be touched, to be held, and to have sex. We are all on our own paths of growth, and when we start to want to build a relationship, it’s important to remember the differences between boys, guys and men, even if children aren’t involved.