Anal Fisting – To Try Or Not To Try

Anal fisting is definitely an extreme form of anal sex, and it’s not for the faint of heart. Before you try anal fisting, read this first!

What Is Anal Fisting?

During anal fisting, your entire hand is placed in your partner’s rectum. I know, it sounds scary and impossible. With the right instructions though, lots of care and well mastered skills this practice can become a highly erotic and pleasurable part of your anal routine. As Gayle Rubin notes in reference to anal fisting, “it is an art that involves seducing one of the jumpiest and tightest muscles in the body.”

The first thing you need to know is that anal fisting does NOT mean that you clench your fist and try to squeeze it by all means possible inside your partner’s rectum. Instead, all five fingers are held stretched and really really closed together and only then the insertion can begin.

Also, a latex glove and lube are vital. Apply large quantities of water based lubricants on both her anus and your hand, without worrying about the mess. Oil and fat-based lubes are a no-go, since they can literally cut up holes into the latex glove, easing the transfer of bacteria. Moreover, they are bad for mucous membranes such as the one inside the anus and rectum.

The most important thing however is to start really slow, take your time and advance only when she agrees to. It should not hurt her and she should be in charge, although you’re the one handling her literally. Let her set the pace and tell her to say when she wants you to stay still, come forward, back off or back out completely. Whatever indication she gives you, follow it accordingly.

Before you start, read this set of instructions carefully, even learn it by heart, if necessary.

How To Get Started

  1. Find a comfortable spot for your partner. She should be able to have enough room to stretch as much as she needs and wants.
  2. Now that she’s relaxed and comfortable, it’s time for you to get her turned on. If you want her anus to open up, she needs to be as aroused as ever. Use your best techniques for this one, her favorite sex toy, her most desired cunnilingus session, whatever you know really works in her case.
  3. Coat your entire hand with water based lubricant, after you’ve put the latex glove on. Go very, very slowly. One finger, then two, then three, etc. Now that we’re on the topic of fingers, your fingernails should be short and smooth, even if you’re wearing a glove.
  4. Try and minimize the space that your hand takes as much as you can. Tuck your thumb and group the rest of the fingers close to one another.
  5. The most difficult part is to move past the knuckles so push gently and slowly. Slowly rotate your hand to gain more space and open her up bit by bit. While you’re doing this, talk to her, let her know that everything is ok and that she is doing great. A few words of comfort and encouragement will relax her.
  6. Once you’re all in, don’t move. Give her a few moments to get used to the pressure. After she gives you the green light, you can start moving your hand as you please: up and down, left and right, in circles, etc.
  7. When she’s ready to let you go, the removal procedure should be just as careful and slowly maneuvered. Even though she’s more aroused and enlarged now, that doesn’t mean you should just stick it out like nothing happened. You can cause her pain and serious injuries.

Health Concerns

Although it is generally thought of as carrying small risk as far the spread of sexually transmitted diseases is concerned, there are other more serious health risks that you should know about before engaging in it.

If you don’t follow the rules, if you don’t do it properly or don’t listen to her warning signs, you can cause her very serious injuries, like ruptured bowels, internal tears and lacerations, infections (either of the anus or the urinary tract), inflammations of the pelvis, bruising of the cervix, and even sterility. And be aware that overstretching her anal sphincters may cause them to lose some of their tone, which can lead to bowel and gas control problems.


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