Christian Couples FINALLY Enjoying ‘Whoopee’ Time!

“Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ;Let me take the speck out of your eye when all the time there is a plank in your own eye?”" Matthew 7: 3,4 (New International Version)

Nearly five years since starting Christian Pro Erotic, after years of struggling with my faith and my sexual needs, after hearing the stories of many people of faith in the same situation I finally read the article in the July 7th Time Magazine.

Sexuality for Married Couples

And God Said, “Just Do It” is about Christian fellowships and churches tackling sexuality for married couples. It seems a movement is burgeoning where ministers and ministries are focusing on one issue: married couples in the church need more sex!

Finally, after so many years, we are cleaning a stubborn speck in the eye. Instead of putting down those in the world whose marriages do not live up to the snuff of church standards Christians will finally try to take out the plank of high divorce rates and failed sex lives from the eye of the body of Christ.

Christian couples are finding programs such as New Directions Christian Church (Memphis, Tennessee) with their series“40 Nights of Grreat Sex” or Relevant Church (Tampa, Florida) with their30-Day Sex Challenge available to them to help their marriages grow and prosper.

I can tell you 20 years ago or so the advice would have been to “just pray about it and God will give you the clues to figure our how it will work out”.

A step in the right direction

Not anymore.

Now along with the Good Book we are finding couples armed with (gasp) the Joy of Sex in their arsenal to take back their bedrooms from a stale existence.

To me this is a step in the right direction and one which is way overdue; if these materials were available to Christian couples in the past–leadership and members–many marriages could have avoided heartache and tragedy in their lives. To realize they are failing in the battle in the bedroom is a signal playtime is over. The church is ready to catch up with many other couples who made each night a night to remember.

The church had a flimsy argument to folks outside the church about engaging in spicing up their bedroom life. We kept serving Vanilla when everyone else dove into cartons of Rocky Road and Cookies and Cream (whether you add this to your bedroom play is up to you).

The church balked at toys, oils, massages and (gasp) alternative venues to make things interesting. The thing I could not understand was how those folks who lasted 40 plus years together keep it together when it came to times of intimacy?

The road that led to adultery

It made it seem the wife just lied back and took what the husband gave her year end and year out without question. If they (she) did question (God forbid) then it would mean points off the eternal trail. It is the kind of thinking that opened the doors to all sorts of problems such as adultery, divorce, etc. Husbands would find themselves caught up in adultery and slaves to pornography; women found themselves in the arms of another man (or woman) to ease the pain of such a boring life.

Snubbing the church?

I am sure there are some who see such “straying” tactics as an attempt to snub the nose over the traditions of the church (i.e. “if it was good for mother and father, then it’s good enough for me). Some would even say our society is over saturated with sex and to adopt some of the manuals of the world would mean we would be giving in to the enemy. That reasoning is flawed and failed. When did sex become the enemy here?

Making sex your friend

These churches are finally realizing beating up on one of God’s greatest gifts to humanity is not the direction to give to couples. Making sex their friend, and making sex work for them, can really kill the boredom and stress many families face in their homes.

One thing I like from these teachings are the stress of having husbands do their share around the house and make the wife’s to do list shorter. The consequence of not doing them: you, sir, become part of her list of “to do”. Sex then is reduced to a chore instead of a delight.

My prayer is they continue with this and couples can grow to become stronger and more vibrant couples. I also hope the church would take a good hard study over sexuality regarding the single person because I think if they are prepared to face sexuality before marriage they can handle the rigors of day to day life with another mate during marriage (again, my opinion).

But who wants to throw dust in the eyes of progress? I am just glad groups like ours and programs like the those in Tennessee and Florida are helping to take the plank out of the churches eyes so it can see better.


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