If you want to last longer in bed you’ve got to start thinking about which sex positions you use. Choosing the right sex position can... continue reading
If you want to last longer in bed you’ve got to start thinking about which sex positions you use.
Choosing the right sex position can make the difference between lasting 15 minutes- and 15 seconds.
Sure, there are some men who can have sex in whatever position they want and still last for hours, but if you’re someone who struggles to last for longer than 5 minutes, or even 5 seconds, then you’ve got to find every way you can to last longer. And as you become more confident and develop more sexual skills eventually you may not even have to worry about which positions you use. But for now, let’s focus on what positions can help you last longer in bed.
Why Premature Ejaculation Happens
Before I tell you the different sex positions that work to help you last longer you’ve got to understand a few things about why premature ejaculation happens.
Premature ejaculation happens when we men are over-stimulated. In other words it happens when a man experiences way more pleasure than he can handle in any particular moment in time.
Sometimes we create this overwhelming pleasure just with our thoughts and that’s why you’ll see scenes in movies like American Pie where a guy sees a beautiful woman and orgasms without even being touched by her.
But for 90% of men with premature ejaculation, although their thoughts play a factor, it’s overwhelming physical stimulation that actually triggers the early orgasm.
So if you want to last longer in bed you’ve got to use positions that reduce your stimulation and pleasure to controllable levels where they’re not so intense they cause you to blow within a matter of minutes or even seconds.
And there are two ways to do this. Firstly by using a position that puts pressure and demands on a part of your body other than the genitals. In these positions blood and energy are drawn away from the penis, which reduces your overall stimulation and helps you last longer. Or secondly you can use a position where you can fully relax your muscles and body. By relaxing you eliminate physical tension and muscle tightness, which is a common cause for early orgasm (more on this in a minute).
Standing Up Positions
One position you can use to draw energy and blood away from the penis is a standing up position. What’s great about this type of position is that when standing up you’ll find a lot of energy being spent in your legs just keeping you standing up. This may sound weird, but the fact is that when you’re lying down and having sex no energy is really being spent in your body apart from in the hips. If you’re only spending energy in your hips then the blood will be flowing there, which adds so stimulation and promotes early orgasm. By standing up you draw blood away from the genitals and into your legs making lasting longer easier.
To take this standing up position to the next level you can also pick up and carry your woman. Now I know this may not be possible in all situations, but if you are in some way holding your woman as well you’ll find even more energy is drawn away from your genitals so lasting longer becomes even easier.
Special Version Of The Missionary Position
The missionary position is when the woman lies on the bottom facing upwards, with the man lying on top of her between her legs while facing down. This is probably the most commonly used sex position and unfortunately it’s also very likely to cause premature ejaculation. The reason why this happens is like I explained earlier, there’s nowhere else for the blood to go except to your hips and genitals. So with all that blood flowing around your genitals you’re much more prone to early orgasm.
So one way to vary this position is to get on your knees and place her legs over your knees or legs. Everything will be the same as before, you’re still lying on top of her, with the one difference that you are on your knees and her legs are lying on top of yours.
Once you’re in this position spread your knees as wide apart as possible until you can feel your groin muscles stretching (Note: stretch only to the point where you feel the stretch, don’t stretch so far it causes pain). This is how the special version of the missionary position should be performed.
Although this change here is subtle, it makes a big difference. And this is because by stretching your groin you’re putting pressure and demands on your groin. Like I explained earlier, when you put pressure and demands elsewhere energy and blood will flow there and away from your genitals and penis, making lasting longer much easier. On top of that it’s a simple variation of one of the most popular sex positions and no woman will have a problem with you using it.
Her On Top
A lot of men have problems with premature ejaculation when the woman is on top, but most of the time it’s because they don’t know what to do in this situation. Getting her on top can actually be very effective for lasting longer. This is because when she’s on top you can fully relax all your muscles.
You may in the past have noticed that when you get close to orgasm your muscles tighten and tense up. In most cases for an orgasm to happen there has to be a release of physical tension. This is why your muscles tighten before orgasm.
So if you realize and become conscious of this muscle tightening you can in fact last longer in bed just by simply relaxing your muscles. And her on top is a great position in which to do this.
Go Get Started
Above I’ve outlined two important characteristics needed in a position for it to help you last longer in bed; the position should either draw blood away from the penis because of pressure and demands in other parts of the body or it should allow you to fully relax your body. Any position with one of these two characteristics should take you a long way in helping you last longer in bed.