(Ladies) How To Masturbate In 10 Easy Steps

Masturbation for women is not at all like what masturbation is for men. Men often learn to masturbate at a young age, whereas many women have never tried masturbation before at all! Masturbation is a great way to satisfy your sexual curiosity and needs if you’ve never had sex before or in between sexual relationships. It’s also an excellent way to connect with yourself spiritually, emotionally and sexually. Here’s how to masturbate in 10 easy steps!

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Get Yourself In The Mood

For most women, trying to orgasm when you’re stressed out or thinking about your daily to-do list is much like trying to fit a square peg in a round hole. It’s not going to happen. When you’re ready to start masturbating, spend some time to get yourself in the mood. Lock your door so you’re not worried about someone walking in and catching you in the act, take a bath, drink a glass of wine if you’re of age and just take some time to de-stress and let the thoughts of the day float away.

Fantasize

What makes you hot? Think about what turns you on and then do just that – think about it! Don’t be afraid to use props, such as erotic magazines, books or videos. Put on something soft and silky, or go naked if that’s what you like. Light candles with scents that relax you or turn you on. Whatever you choose to do, it just has to turn you on and get you thinking about pleasure.

Explore Your Body

Instead of just heading straight to your vulva, take some time to explore your entire body. If you’ve put on something soft and silky, try rubbing that across your skin. If you’re nude, take a silk scarf and rub it across your nipples. Touch your body, from your neck to your legs. When you touch somewhere that feels good, keep doing it! Try touching two places at once, such as touching your nipples and caressing lightly in between your legs.

Touch Yourself

When you’re ready to move to your vulva, begin touching yourself softly and slowly. Use one or two fingers to slowly massage your clitoris. Try using your palm too, and experiment with different pressures and speeds to find out what feels the best. This is where you’ll want to start using lots of lube! Many women don’t realize how much even just a little lube can make a difference in how masturbation feels. Try tickling yourself, tugging gently on your labia, or even inserting a finger or two in your vagina. Most women, however, will get more pleasure from clitoral stimulation during masturbation than they will vaginal.

Build Up The Sexual Tension

When you start feeling really aroused, back down a little bit and use a softer pressure or less speed to slow down and let the sexual tension build. Make the pleasure last as long as possible by not rushing to orgasm. When you feel like you’re on the brink, stop and do something else. When you’ve felt the pleasure subside a little, start building up again until you’ve reached the brink again. Keep doing this until you just can’t hold back anymore!

Remember To Breathe

A lot of women hold their breath when they start feeling pleasure, when they should be doing the exact opposite. Remember to breathe deeply and let the sexual energy flow through your body instead of trying to fight against it. Start building up a rhythm by rocking your pelvis against your hand. Try clenching your PC muscles (the muscles you use to stop the flow of urine) in tandem with rocking your pelvis and touching yourself.

Reaching Orgasm

When you’re at the brink of reaching orgasm but just can’t seem to make it over the edge, try giving yourself a little extra stimulation. Think about a really, super hot fantasy or use your fingers or a toy to insert into your vagina. You can also try pinching your nipples or caressing your anus.

Letting Yourself Go

When you begin to orgasm, continue doing exactly what you were doing when the orgasm started. Don’t stop! You’ll begin to feel waves of pleasure, and you may want to lighten your stimulation a little to feel the individual orgasmic waves. If this is the first time you’ve had an orgasm, it may feel like a blast of pleasure that seemed too short, but the more you masturbate and experience orgasms, the more you will begin to feel the different parts of an orgasm.

Practice, Practice, Practice

When it comes to masturbation, practice makes perfect. You may not reach orgasm on your first try, or you may not be quite satisfied with the first experience. Don’t give up! Try using a vibrator or dildo that will provide intense stimulation, or try rocking your pelvis against something like a pillow, a stuffed animal or even the corner of your bed. Try lots of different things and when you find something that you like, keep doing it! If something isn’t working for you, it’s time to give it up and try something else. With practice, you’ll find the masturbation methods that get you hot and bring you to orgasm every single time!


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