Your Blowjob Questions – Answered (Part II)

Oral sex isn’t always easy to figure out. Here are the answers to your most common oral sex questions!

What Can I Practice Giving Head With?

Learning how to give great head takes lots of practice, but you’re probably wondering just what you can practice on to get really good at it. The best way to practice is to practice on your partner – he can give you feedback about what feels good and what doesn’t, and let’s face it – a banana isn’t going to give you any responses about what it likes and what it doesn’t. Experimenting with new oral sex techniques and positions with your lover is part of the fun of discovering fellatio!

If you want to get really good at giving head before you go down on your man and surprise him with excellent blowjob skills, you can use other items to practice with, but you still won’t know if you’re any good or not because again, these items just can’t give you any feedback.

Food items like peeled bananas and cucumbers are popular for practicing giving head, but these can often pose a choking hazard – for example, if part of the banana breaks off into your throat and you’re not prepared for it. If you’re practicing a blowjob on an unpeeled banana – or any other food item, you can also risk scratching and scraping the inside of your mouth, your tongue or the back of your throat. To put it simply, food items were created for eating, not sucking off.

The best item to practice giving head with is an actual dildo. Choose one that is as lifelike as possible – complete with vein, head and scrotum details. This will allow you to practice many different oral sex techniques, such as swirling your tongue around the head or gently sucking the scrotum in and out of your mouth.

While a dildo can’t give you any more feedback than a banana can, if it’s realistic enough, it will train you how a certain technique feels. You’ll feel the coronal ridge of the head of the penis beneath your tongue and be able to find that same spot on your man when you go to perform oral sex on him later. You’ll know exactly what that spot feels like and what to do with it if you’ve practiced on a lifelike dildo first. If you get one with a suction cup on the back of it, you can stick it to the wall or a chair to practice oral sex positions as well!

Just lock your door first and make sure you have complete and utter privacy – this is something you really don’t want to get caught doing!

 How Can I Get Over The Fear Of Giving Head For The First Time?

First time blowjob jitters can really put a damper on whatever sexy mood you’ve got going. However, there’s less reason to be afraid than you think. Remember how much guys love getting a blowjob? Pretty much any blowjob is a good one, even if all the girl knows how to do is suck up and down. As long as you’re not using your teeth, you’re good to go. Relax and enjoy the process!

Pay attention to his body language and the noise he is making, and do whatever causes him to make the most noise, buck his hips or breathe the heaviest. Know that you’re not going to be an oral sex master the second you put a penis in your mouth, and just enjoy the ride! You’ll get better as you continue going down on your man!

Is It Normal For Some Guys Not To Be Able To Orgasm From A Blowjob?

Sometimes you can give a guy head before and no matter what you did or how long you did it for, he still won’t get to the point of no return. Does this mean you’re bad at oral sex or don’t know how to get him off? Probably not. Some men just can’t let go when it comes to oral sex.

He may be afraid of ejaculating in your mouth or on your face, or he may be afraid he’ll break wind or so some other equally embarrassing thing if he “lets go” while your face is down there. So they hold back mentally and physically and just can’t reach the finish line, no matter how good the blowjob is. This is actually often subconscious – your man is likely not even realizing he’s holding back on his orgasm.

If this is the case, have fun with the blowjob and move on to sexual intercourse when you’re ready. There’s no hard and fast rule that says you have to give a man an orgasm from a blowjob for it to be any good. If you really want to get him to the point of no return, make sure you’ve set the mood well.

Allow him to shower first, go to the bathroom if he needs to and make sure he’s in a comfortable position with the lights down low. Give him every opportunity to relax and get into it. Don’t ask him if he’s there yet, or if he’s close. This will take him back to square one almost as fast as taking your mouth off of him all together. Talk with him about what turns him on the most and what might help him cross the border into Orgasm-land. If you can’t get him there, don’t sweat it too much. He still enjoys getting great head from you.

How Can I Tell If He Really Liked It?

Many guys aren’t going to tell you that a blowjob was really good or really bad – you’re going to have to make a lot of these inferences yourself. You can judge how good oral sex for him is by gauging his body language. If he’s breathing heavy, bucking his hips or grinding them in conjunction with your movements, moaning or talking dirty, he’s most likely enjoying himself. If he’s laying there like a cadaver or his penis starts going limp, he’s most likely not enjoying himself.

You don’t need a fancy litmus test to tell you whether you suck at sucking him off or not. However, keep in mind that if your man loses his erection often, no matter what you do, it may not have anything to do with you at all. That’s an excellent question for his doctor.

Will He Urinate In My Mouth?

Chances are, he’s not going to pee in your mouth when you’re going down on him, unless he’s got a fetish and forgot to tell you – but that’s not likely. When a man is turned on, it’s very difficult for him to urinate because his body just won’t let him do it. The valves from the bladder to the urethra shut and the valves from the vas deferens open. If your partner ever tries to urinate when he’s erect, notice that it takes him longer.

He has to mentally concentrate on relaxing the muscles needed for him to release the flow of urine while his penis is hard. If your lover has to urinate, he likely won’t be able to achieve a full erection or he won’t be able to reach orgasm and may have to stop the action to go take a bathroom break. If you feel a warm gush of thick liquid, he’s probably ejaculated in your mouth. However, it’s not impossible for him to urinate while you’re giving him head – it has happened to women before.

If the liquid is thinner and saltier, it’s likely urine. Go spit it out and brush your teeth. Relax, it won’t kill you. It will probably embarrass him more, so give him a break and don’t make a big deal about it.


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