Clitoris 101 – What It Is, Why You Need To Touch It & How To Do It!

The clitoris. This is the GRAND MOMMY of them all, the main moan zone. If you want to score, and score big, this is where you go.

Women have penises too, we call theirs the clitoris. It’s a small bump or button a few inches above the vaginal opening. And if you examine it very closely, you’ll see that it does look like a very small penis. And true to that nature, it can engorge with blood and go erect. It also has a tiny shaft which feels like a thin bony cord.

Why The Clitoris Exists

The clitoris exists for one good reason – to give PLEASURE. Although size doesn’t give it justice, which is why some guys have a hard time finding it, its role is nothing to sneeze at. The concentration of nerve endings at the pleasure bud is tremendous, to say the least. Easily by the thousands, it is one of the most heavily innervated part of a woman. It packs in one very tiny area nerves similar in number to that of the penis!

Why are nerves important, you ask?

Because they connect to the brain. Stimulating the clitoris sends bliss impulses that rock her brain silly. The CAVEAT, however, is that the same nerves that make it sensitive to pleasure, also make it sensitive to pain. So you gotta take it easy.

How Big Is It?

4 inches!

Not many people know this, but the clit is more than just a button or a bump, much of it is not visually accessible. What people refer to as the “clit” is just the head of the clitoris – like the head of your penis. When we say that it looks like a knob, this is what we’re talking about. Unseen is the organ branching into 2 forks, extending down and passing along the vaginal opening and terminating near the anus.

Inside, a woman’s clitoral system really looks like a thick wishbone. But for our purposes here, we will talk about what you see the outside.

How Do You Find It?

Your landmark will be the inner-smaller lips, or labia. The inner lips are very easy to spot, they look like petals or misshapen tongues and are usually darker than the rest of the vulva. Do an upward trace of the lips. You will notice that both left and right lips converge at the top. The clitoris sits on top where both lips converge.

The clitoris is sheathed inside a hood of skin, similar to the foreskin your doctor may have removed when you were circumcised. Sometimes, you really have to push back the blanketing hood to unveil the knob. Be wary of doing this though, because if she’s not sufficiently aroused, this can hurt!

At times, when she’s really hot, the knob will retract under the hood and won’t be visually accessible. This isn’t bad news – it does this on its own when she’s excited and nearing orgasm.

Why Is The Clitoris Important?

ORGASMS. Ring any bells? Any bells at all?

Orgasms are a woman’s best friend as they are these waves of contractions that bring intense pleasure. They are 21 birthdays, Graduation, Wedding & Driver’s License rolled into one – fleeting slices of heaven that transform even the most prim & proper of ladies into cussing savages.

The clitoris is the main organ that serves her these orgasms, it’s little wonder why millions of research dollars and entire lives have been spent studying it. Compared to the g spot, for example, the clit is the more consistent server of climax. In fact, many women orgasm only via clitoral stimulation. You can thrust like hell for hours, use all types of lube, but as long as the clitoris isn’t in on the action, a woman won’t budge.

Before you get flushed with excitement and channel all sexual energy on her pleasure bud, consider this – the clit may look like a button, but it doesn’t function like one. Do not make the mistake of immediately feeling for it and expect a girl to shoot up the horny-meter. Not so.

Use Indirect Stimulation

How is indirect stimulation possible?

Reviewing how the vulva is configured, you’ll see that the clitoris sits on top of the inner labia. During intercourse, a thrusting penis tugs on these lips – which consequently tugs on the clitoris. In short, intercourse stimulates the clitoris indirectly.

The problem for women is that this indirect stimulation is grossly insufficient to result in climax. Although there are women who cum by penetration alone, most women don’t. Your penis just going in and out of her vagina just won’t do the job. You have to give direct clitoral stimulation while thrusting.

How do you do this?

Do THE GRIND.

The key here is pelvic & hip movement that provides both pressure and friction. Not the inside friction between penis and vaginal walls, but the friction caused by pressing and rubbing your pubic bone on her clitoris.

Because of the clit’s location, forward-backward thrusting won’t avail much, but by sensually grinding your bush area, you let the pleasure bud in on the action. Actually, your pubic bone has a better chance of delivering her orgasms than your jimmy, it can give DIRECT clitoral provocation.

So when you penetrate, don’t pull-out immediately, keep your member inside. In this position, you can directly stimulate her clit by rubbing your pube against it. Grind in circular and “8” motions. (Be sensitive when she guides you by placing her hands on your buttocks, or when she synchronizes with your movements.)

The grind creates a huge, HUGE difference in your woman’s orgasm potential. It’s more effective than bouncy moves because it stimulates the same area women excite during masturbation!


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