Why A Woman Fakes Her Orgasm

The female orgasm can be elusive, and as a result, many girls end up faking in bed. Here’s the reason behind why not every female orgasm is the real deal.

Sadly, many women fake their orgasms. You might think you’ve given her the most powerful orgasm of her life, when in reality, her screaming, moaning and thrashing was an act that would give Jenna Jameson a run for her money. If you’ve ever found out that a girl has been faking with you, you probably felt let down, cheated and lied to.

Which is true – you were let down, cheated and lied to when she made you believe what you were doing made her come, when in reality, she was probably as far from an orgasm as she could possibly be. However, something you need to think about is why some women fake reaching climax.

They almost never do it for fun – because frankly, making it really believable isn’t that easy. And unless the guy she’s with is a total dolt or never watches porn, if she doesn’t do a good job at faking it, he’ll likely be able to tell right away. It’s harder to fake an orgasm than it is to have a real one, so why would she?

She Can’t Have An Orgasm

Think of all the reasons she might not be able to come – take any one of these and apply it to a faking situtation. If she can’t have an orgasm, for whatever reason, she’s going to be tempted to fake it. While some women are empowered enough to think, “You know what? He didn’t make me come and he should know that.” They know they have no obligation to you to cover up the fact that they didn’t reach climax, and they’re not going to hide that fact. Good for them. Other women, however, might be embarrassed about it.

She might not want to admit to you that she couldn’t have an orgasm – so she fakes it instead. For women who have never had an orgasm or don’t know how to “get there,” faking is even more common. For these girls, screaming in “ecstasy” at the right time may be all she knows how to do, or what she thinks she is supposed to do. No matter what the reason behind her inability to have an orgasm is, if she can’t do it, she might rather fake it than admit that she just can’t have one.

She Doesn’t Want You To Feel Bad

Women are sensitive creatures, especially to the feelings of others. She may believe that you knowing she isn’t going to come would make you feel inadequate or bad about yourself, and she may very well be right. She doesn’t want this for you, so she’d rather fake it than see you get hurt. If she fakes it, you’ll feel good about “making her climax” and she won’t have to watch your insecurity climb.

However, this is actually a huge problem – how are you supposed to know what pleases her and what doesn’t during sex if you constantly think everything you’re doing results in a killer orgasm for her? She’s actually hurting you and hurting herself in the long run, because she’s not teaching you how to pleasure her – something that can only be done when you see your techniques pay off with a real orgasm.

The truth is, most guys are smart enough to figure out if they do something that results in her climax that it needs to be done again. So if her man is doing the wrong thing and she fakes it, she’s only teaching him bad habits. But her motivations may be in the right place – she doesn’t want you to be upset that either she can’t climax or you can’t help her get there.

She Knows She Won’t And She’s Ready For It To Be Over

Women who are experienced in having an orgasm can usually tell if they’re just not going to get there this time. Again, this can be due to a variety of reasons, but if she knows she’s not going to reach climax, she’s probably right. This of course can be self fulfilling prophecy too, but whatever. Let’s just assume for the moment that for whatever reason, she’s not going to get off and she knows it.

You’re doing your thing and she’s just not getting anything out of it. She’s patient, she’s happy you’re getting your groove on and she’s going to hang out underneath you until you get yours. The clock ticks by and you’re still thrusting away. The lube is drying out and things are getting kind of uncomfortable for her. You’re going faster, slowing down, changing sex positions – and still not ejaculating. Then she realizes the truth – you’re waiting for her.

You’re not going to let go until she gets hers – which is sweet, but when she knows it’s not going to happen, what does she do? Many women won’t have the guts to look you dead in the eye and say, “Honey, I’m just not going to orgasm tonight. Go ahead and do your thing.” She might be afraid you’ll be upset. She might be embarrassed. Whatever – she’s just going to fake it because the sex has to end sometime. She might as well be the one to end it. She’s not doing it to hurt you – she’s doing it because she’s too chicken not to.

You Suck In Bed

And lastly, a woman who has plenty of experience with good orgasms, mediocre ones and no orgasms at all will be able to determine whether your sexual techniques are any good or not. And unfortunately for you, you might suck in bed. Now, this doesn’t mean you suck with every woman (although this may also be true), but you’re just not doing it for the girl you’re with at the moment.

Now rewind a bit and remember that her faking it means she’s too scared to do anything else. If a woman fakes it because you’re bad in bed, it’s because she doesn’t have enough balls to either tell you what she likes, direct you in the right direction or flat out tell you that it’s not working for her. She also doesn’t have enough balls to just masturbate while you watch. So she fakes it.

There are many reasons why a woman will fake her orgasm, but it’s almost never because she wants to hurt you or make you angry. It’s usually because she either wants to protect you from hurt feelings that she’s not coming, or because she’s too chicken to actually communicate with you about what she likes or what you need to be doing differently.

If she can’t communicate with you, that’s a whole other ball game – she’s either just scared by nature (in which case you’re better off with another woman who’s not a pansy) or she doesn’t feel safe talking about her sexual feelings with you (in which case you’re doing something in the relationship that’s causing her to feel closed off – or she’s going some serious emotional baggage.

Women are hard to figure out, but you knew that already). If she’s faking and you find out, give her a break. Don’t automatically get pissed and walk away. She’s not being malicious. Consider the why and try to talk to her about it.


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