Ladies: How To Orgasm With Him On Top

Most women can only reach orgasm during sex with their partners if they’re on top. This is mainly because in the woman-on-top sex position, the woman has control over the speed of thrusting as well as the depth and angle of his penis in her vagina. However, lots of guys like to be on top because it feels great for them, but does that mean you should miss out on your orgasm!? No way! Here’s how you can reach orgasm with him on top, every time!

Don’t Ignore The Power Of Foreplay

Foreplay is a very important part of sex, because very few women can reach orgasm from having sex only with no time to get warmed up first. Give your partner oral sex and let him return the favor, or let him finger you and touch your clitoris while you kiss him deeply. Without enough time to get warmed up and turned on, it’s unlikely that you’ll have an orgasm at all, no matter who is on top!

Foreplay will also help you feel more connected to your partner emotionally, and that type of intimacy is necessary for a woman to even feel turned on and to be orgasmic. Without feeling emotionally intimate with your partner, it’s going to be much, much harder to be in an orgasmic state of mind!

Masturbate

Masturbation is essential for a woman to learn how to have an orgasm. Through masturbation, a woman learns what feels best, how she likes to be touched and what doesn’t feel good. It’s kind of like learning the map to orgasm – and if you can’t bring yourself to orgasm by masturbating, how are you going to show your guy the way there?

When masturbating, don’t be afraid to take it slow and really find out what feels good and what doesn’t. Don’t make it a rush job – lock your doors and set aside some time to be with yourself when no one will bother you. Once you really learn what you like and how your body responds to pleasure, you’ll become much more orgasmic in any sex position, including him on top.

Use The Coital Alignment Technique

The Coital Alignment Technique (also called CAT) is when both partners are in the missionary position with him on top, but he aligns himself in a way that allows his chest to be closer to your shoulders rather than directly on top of you and face to face. This amazing sex technique angles his penis differently to allow for more g-spot stimulation, and it also allows for more clitoral stimulation.

Next time you and your partner are having sex with him on top, have him scoot up a bit to where he’s just a little bit above you, where his lips meet your forehead and his chest and hands are closer to your shoulders. When thrusting, instead of thrusting straight in or downward, he will thrust upwards as though he is “pointing” towards your head and shoulders. This will create more friction during sex, which is needed for both clitoral and g-spot orgasms.

Bring On The Sex Toys

Even with masturbation, foreplay and the Coital Alignment Technique, it can still be very difficult for a woman to reach orgasm with her partner on top of her during sex. If you’ve tried everything but still can’t have an orgasm in the missionary position, don’t be afraid to use sex toys to get the job done.

Try putting a dab of lube on your finger and touching your clitoris while he thrusts in and out. He’ll really enjoy watching you pleasure yourself, and you’ll enjoy the fact that you can actually give yourself an orgasm while he’s on top instead of simply going without.

If you’re not able to stimulate yourself manually enough to reach orgasm, bust out your vibrator and slip it in between you and your partner for a little stronger clitoral stimulation. This will help you reach orgasm quickly and easily, and the vibrations may make your partner feel great too!

Best Sex Toys For The Job

If you’re going to use a sex toy to reach orgasm in the missionary position, you don’t want a huge dildo shaped vibrator because it just won’t fit right. Try a slender vibrator or a bullet vibe. These are smaller and will more easily fit between you and your lover. If you want to do it hands free, try using a strap on style bullet vibrator that simply sits over the clitoris.


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