When the average person thinks of tantric sex, their thoughts may jump to intense sack sessions that are solely for the pursuit of intense pleasure. While much of tantra does involve these kinds of sexual practices, after all, that’s what it became famous for in the Western world, tantra involves so much more than pure physical pleasure.
For example, did you know that tantra is often used as a means of emotional, physical and spiritual healing, as well as a method for achieving the ultimate intimacy that can exist between two people?
Sound intrigued? Then read on to discover how tantra can lead you and your partner on the path to ultimate healing and unity!
The Tantric Path to Healing and Unity
It’s no secret that many people may have emotional and mental “baggage”, thanks to previous relationships or life experiences. These problems can often manifest themselves during particularly intimate moments, including sack sessions.
Whether the problems come from inner issues (perhaps with self-confidence or body hate) or outer influences (for instance, you or your partner experienced abuse or grew up in a loveless household), these mental and emotional scars don’t have to become an obstacle in your quest for the ultimate intimacy and union.
Tantra is widely known for its healing powers. In fact, if you and your partner engage in tantric lovemaking practices, you’ll soon find that you both will grow to become more confident, loving and intimate partners.
However, when using tantra in an effort to emotionally and mentally heal yourself or your partner, it’s important to distinguish these nights from normal sack sessions. A healing tantric session shouldn’t have the same feel as a normal night of tantric lovemaking, since the latter focuses more on achieving spiritual bliss through physical pleasure.
Rather, a healing tantric session will focus more on unleashing and clearing away any mental and emotional obstacles that you or your partner may have in regards to sex and intimacy.
In a healing session, you must first distinguish your role as either Healer or Receiver; for example, if your partner is the one experiencing emotional or mental obstacles to tantric bliss, then you should be the Healer, and he or she the Receiver.
Additionally, it’s important to verbally confirm your role with your partner, as this will serve to relax each other in regards to any expectations.
Once Roles Are Established
Once each of your roles have been established, set up a comfortable and non-threatening space in a spot that is familiar to your partner. For example, most healing sessions are often successful in the bedroom, as this is usually a space that signifies positive emotions brought about by intimate and relaxing activities.
Let your partner know that anything that happens in the space will stay there; this will make him or her feel more comfortable in sharing intimate and vulnerable moments with you. Have your partner lie down and begin the healing session with a relaxing massage.
This should differ greatly from a massage that’s given in the pursuit of pleasure; rather, focus on massaging nonsexual areas before centering on the different energy channels located in the pelvic region and the heart. Once your partner has expressed his or her permission for you to move on to the pelvic region, use slow and deliberate massaging movements.
Remember, the goal of this activity is not arousal, so don’t rush your partner into orgasm; rather, let your partner experience the different emotions and sensations that come to the surface. For example, if your partner begins to become aroused, or even yells with anxiety, give him or her permission to feel these emotions.
Of course, if your partner wishes for you to stop, then the healing session should immediately end until your lover is ready for another one. Sometimes, past experiences can be so painful that it can definitely take more than one tantric healing session to release these roadblocks to pleasure and intimacy.
Practice Makes Perfect!
If you desire to play the role of Healer but feel uncomfortable with what it entails, try enrolling in a tantric healing course before engaging in these practices with your lover.
An expert can teach you what to do and how to react in certain scenarios, especially those in which powerful emotions come to the surface. An expert can also help you to become more in touch with your receiver’s energy, which will help you immensely during your healing sessions.
After each tantric healing session, be sure that you hold and nurture your partner, as this will reassure them of your love and devotion to their physical, mental and emotional well-being. Drink water, take a bath together, or just lie there holding each other, listening to each other’s breath.
Soon, your healing sessions will give way to more soulful and sensual lovemaking sessions, as you and partner will have overcome any obstacles to spiritual, physical, and emotional bliss and intimacy.