Every guy wants to be the best lover his girl has ever had, and he probably wants to be the best lover that every one of his past girlfriends have ever had too. It’s part of the natural competitiveness that just about every man has. They simply want to be the best at everything, even sex. But it’s difficult to know for sure if you really are the best lover she’s ever had, or if she’s had much better sex before you. Fortunately, there are a few ways you can really be the best lover in the world to her, without taking pills to make your penis larger or just being an all around sex god. Here’s what to do to make her want you and only you.
Avoid Comparisons In The First Place
It’s natural for men to want to compare themselves to each other, regardless of whether he’s got the better car, the biggest penis or the better washboard abs. It’s just something that men do. However, most women consider a man’s need to compete with other men just plain silly and don’t want to have anything to do with it. So you likely won’t get an answer at all if you ask her if you’re better in bed than all her other boyfriends. Instead of trying to compare yourself to your partner’s other lovers, simply check your ego at the door. There’s no comparison between you and them, because you’re you and they’re them. You and her other lovers will be similar in some ways and completely different in others, and that’s actually a good thing. If she wanted exactly what her other lovers had to offer, she wouldn’t be with you, now would she?
Learn From Those Who Came Before You
If she had a lover or two that really drove her wild, instead of bristling at that fact, use the information to your advantage. Her being more experienced in the sex department is actually something that will benefit you and your sex life with her. She’ll know more about what she likes and what she doesn’t, and she may even know more about pleasuring you too. Ask her what her previous lovers did that made her so hot and try to re-enact what they did yourself. Did they lick her clitoris a certain way or finger her g-spot just right? Or did they roleplay with her and fulfill her wildest fantasies? Even if you don’t get it exactly right the first time, ask her what you need to be doing differently, without copping an attitude about it. This takes a lot of guts and requires you to put your “manliness” aside, but the results are well worth it. Your partner will truly appreciate your effort at pleasing her, and she will definitely enjoy you when you’re not being defensive about her previous lovers. It’s very likely that with effort on your part and communication on hers that you can learn to perform as well as her previous partners, if not better! You’ll not only learn what they did to make her squirm, but you will also learn new ways to pleasure her too.
Master The Basics
Many guys think that if they’re “experienced” in the sex department (i.e. watched porn or had a few sex partners) that they automatically know everything there is to know about giving a woman an orgasm. This couldn’t be farther from the truth! A lot of guys don’t know all the ways you can pleasure a woman and many guys don’t even know the basics and there’s nothing wrong with that. If you’ve never taken the time to research ways to pleasure your partner, now is definitely the time. There are tons of resources available that will teach you more about a woman’s anatomy and how you can use fingering and oral sex to make her beg for more. Remember that porn is actually one of the worst examples on how to please a woman sexually, so check out an e-book or a helpful website if you’re looking for tips on how to give her a fantastic orgasm. Some sex tips are pretty basic, but if you’ve never found a woman’s g-spot or her clitoris (or stimulated both at the same time), you have a lot to learn before you can really drive your girl wild. Take some time to learn a few new things that you can try in the bedroom and watch as your partner forgets all about her past lovers and is focused only on you!