Foreplay is absolutely essential for a woman to reach orgasm, but most men can reach orgasm simply through sex alone. That doesn’t mean that foreplay won’t drive him absolutely crazy though! Most women think that giving a quickie blowjob or a handjob is enough to get him warmed up, and most of the time it is. However, you can really take sex to the next level if you spend a little more time down there on the special spots that even he doesn’t know about. Learn how to push your man’s pleasure buttons with these simple techniques that will send him to the moon. He’ll be begging you for more before the night is through!
The Prostate Gland
The prostate gland, also known as the “male g-spot” is usually only accessible through the anal canal or by pressing on the perineum (the area between your partner’s scrotum and his anus) pretty firmly. Stimulating or “milking” the prostate gland during sex will heighten his sexual pleasure and may even cause him to have an orgasm immediately. An orgasm with prostate stimulation is incredibly powerful and is often considered the “best.” Try using a very small anal sex toy to stimulate his prostate gland during a blowjob, or you can use a finger if that is more comfortable for him. Remember to use lots of lube!
The Cremaster Muscle
The cremaster muscle is the muscle that draws the testicles in when your partner is cold and relaxes when he is warm and comfortable. You can stimulate this muscle during a blowjob or handjob by gently tugging on your partner’s scrotum while stimulating his penis. Make sure to communicate with your partner about what feels good and what doesn’t, because it isn’t hard to get a little too rough with his boys. Let him know that it’s ok to speak up if something doesn’t feel right - but especially if it feels good!
The appeal of playing with the anus during sex is that it’s considered so “taboo” to do so. In addition to the psychological pleasure created by anal play, the anus is packed with nerve endings and can create great physical pleasure when stimulated. Some men are a little nervous about anal play or aren’t comfortable with it at all, so make sure your partner is ok with you touching his anus during sex or oral sex. Start by simply brushing your fingers lightly over the outside of his anus. If he wants you to insert a finger or a toy, make sure you have lube on hand.
Many girls know that a man’s earlobe is a sensitive spot that shouldn’t be missed whether you’re kissing or having sex. Start turning him on by whispering what you want to do to him sexually, or simply just sigh heavily in his ear when you hug him. Flick the bottom of his earlobe quickly with your tongue before drawing it into your mouth and sucking lightly on it. This will drive him absolutely wild! He won’t be able to wait long until he wants you to do to his penis what you’re doing to his ear.
The Seam Of His Testicles
On a man’s scrotum, there is a line or a “seam” that separates the two testicles from each other. While this sensitive spot is packed with nerves that respond well to licking, touching and caressing, this spot is often missed by women everywhere. Take advantage of this spot when you’re giving your partner oral sex and lick up and down the seam while you’re gripping his testicles or the base of his penis. Try licking the seam while you’re giving a handjob at the same time if you really want to push his pleasure buttons!
The F-spot is a little known but very powerful spot on man’s penis that can create waves of pleasure that will run up and down his body when stimulated. To find the F-spot, look on the underside of the penis where the head of the penis meets the base. This should look like an upside down “V,” and the F-spot is located at the point of the “V.” This spot is best stimulated while giving him head by flicking your tongue firmly against the spot while moving your hand up and down the base of his penis. The F-spot is a great way to pleasure your partner, but don’t try to stimulate the F-spot alone – it could make the rest of his penis feel left out in the cold.