Anal sex – it’s taboo and for a lot of people, it’s also sexy and fun. Anal play can involve penile penetration, rimming or penetration with various toys designed for anal sex. Like vaginal vibrators and dildos, they can add lots of fun and excitement to your sex life – but are anal sex toys safe? Is anal sex safe – period? How can you make anal sex safer?
Making Anal Sex Safer
The anus, unlike the vaginal canal, was not designed for sexual stimulation or penetration. That doesn’t mean you can’t do it, but it will take a lot more effort to make anal sex safer for both you and your partner. The most important thing to do when having anal sex is to start slowly! Communicate with your partner about how something feels and if something hurts or feels uncomfortable, you definitely want to say something. Don’t keep doing it if it hurts! You could definitely tear something. You also want to make sure that you’re using lots of good, water based lubricant – not the desensitizing kind – to make sure everything goes smoothly. When you’re finished with your anal play, make sure you clean your toys and everything else that came into contact with your anus thoroughly with hot, soapy water or special sanitizing sex toy cleaner.
Safer Anal Sex Toys
All anal sex toys should have a wide, flared base to prevent the toy from moving its way past your anus and into your intestines which can and will happen if you do not have a base on the end of the toy to keep it from doing so. When using anal sex toys, it’s important to start small and work your way up, as opposed to starting with a very large anal sex toy. The anus can stretch to accomodate a variety of toy or penis sizes, but it is important that you don’t start large right away and give your anus time to stretch and become pliable or your anus or intestines may tear.
What Do Anal-Only Toys Really Do?
A butt plug is a popular anal toy, and it has a wide base and a narrow neck, with a wide angled “plug” at the top. It is designed to go in the anus and stay there during sex, thereby decreasing the size of a woman’s vagina and making sex pleasurable for both partners. Anal beads are another popular choice in anal toys, and the best choice would be ones that are completely plastic or silicone, without any cloth or real string parts. Cloth or string parts cannot be washed or sanitized thoroughly and can pose a danger to you and your partner’s health. Anal beads come in a variety of colors and sizes, and some models will vibrate or rotate. Anal beads are designed to be pulled out slowly or quickly depending on your preference, and can simulate orgasmic muscle spasms or increase orgasmic intensity. Anal dildos or prostate massagers are designed for men to use, and can massage the prostate and greatly increase pleasure for a man during his orgasm. Men who have used prostate massagers and the like swear they have had the best orgasms of their lives that way.
While the anus wasn’t necessarily designed for anal sex, people can and will use the anus during sexual play and have been since the dawn of time. If you’re going to engage in anal sex play, take precautions to make anal sex safer for both you and your partner. Remember, if anything hurts or becomes uncomfortable, it’s time to stop!