Dirty Talk: What To Say & What Not To

Dirty talk isn’t always easy to engage in. You may be wondering if what comes out of your mouth is okay. Here are dirty talk phrases to avoid – and ones to use.

Never, Ever Make Comparisons

It’s best to never make comparisons during dirty talk. Though you may think your partner would be turned on to hear “You are the best lover I’ve ever had”, or “You give a blowjob like no one I have ever known before!” The only part they might take from that little seemingly harmless statement is to start wondering “Wow, I wonder just how many partners he or she HAS had” or “I wonder how many people HAVE tried that move on him (or her.)”

This can cause the mate hearing these words to have very real feelings of uneasiness and then have them obsessing over every thing from “WHO” the other partner(s) were, “WHAT” you did with them sexually, what you didn’t do with them and just how you really stacked up in their mind against what they view as “the competition.”

No one likes to be compared to someone else when it comes to very intimate sex acts with a spouse. It is regardless of whether it was a long time ago or about a former lover from a now dissolved marriage. You don’t want what should be “fun” dirty talk to turn into something which could ultimately be used to fuel jealousy or cause feelings of inadequacies in the person you are with.

You Don’t Have To Use Dirty Talk All The Time

Once you begin using dirty talk on a regular basis, realize that it doesn’t need to happen every time you have a sexual experience. There are encounters where looks, touches and emotions allow the silence to be perfect. As a matter of fact, If you feel it’s one of those “moments” simply smile, press your fingertips to your lover’s lips and say a sweet “Shhhh… baby I just want to hear us breathing in each other tonight.”

Jumping In, Feet First

The hardest part about dirty talk may be the first step to getting started. Take the initiative and the leading role. Just remember to start out your attempt as a fun filled adventure. Don’t take yourself too seriously. Be lighthearted when you bring up your desire to add dirty talk to your relationship and simply look for a willing spirit from your partner.

You may be wondering to yourself, just how do I broach the topic? Try telling your partner, “Have I told you just how much you turn me on?” Chances are they won’t be expecting you to tell them that out of the blue. You didn’t say anything over the top, but it will require your mate to answer back. Once they have responded, tell them that you think you’d really like to try a little playful dialogue in the bedroom during foreplay so that you have another outlet for letting them know just what it is about them that really does it for you. And, as easy as that, the door to dirty talk has just been opened.


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