Sexting: How To Evolve From Dirty Texts To Pictures

Sexting is a great turn on, but what do you do when you want MORE? Men enjoy visual stimulation as opposed to mental, which is why women love getting dirty texts but men want to actually see something sexy. Here’s how to get your partner interested in sending you something more visually engaging.

Sexting Turns Her On – But What About Him?

Sexting is a great way to engage a woman and get her so turned on, she’s pouncing on you and ripping your clothes off as soon as you walk in the door. In fact, it’s one of the best foreplay techniques and you don’t even have to touch her to do it! Women respond very well to imaginative words, and when you send her naughty texts, you’re literally speaking her language. You’re bypassing her inhibitions and directly stimulating her mind – which is where arousal starts for a woman.

But where does it start for a guy?

Men are visual – meaning, words just don’t do that much for them. Sure, you’re going to love a text from your partner talking about how much they want to go down on you tonight, but is it going to make you crave her like a dirty text is going to make her crave you? Not exactly. But what if she sent you a picture of her breasts? Now THAT will turn you on! Problem is, what if she’s too shy to send you a picture or movie?

How do you get her to do it?

Slowly Introduce Your Partner To Sending Pictures/Videos

Just like with anything sexual that is new or that you and your lover have never tried before, it’s important to start slow and work your way up. You don’t want to approach your girl and ask her to send you a picture of her vagina if she’s never even sent you a dirty text before. So start with the basics!

Start by sending her flirty text messages. Tell her how pretty you think she looked before she left for work this morning, or let her know how much you can’t wait to see her when you get home. Once you’ve got her hooked to the surprise messages you’re sending to her, start sexting. Make your texts a little more naughtier each time. For example, tell her that you thought she looked great this morning and when she says “Thank you,” lead into telling her what she was wearing made you wish she wasn’t wearing it!

Don’t expect to get her texting you pictures and videos of her in just one day, especially if you and your partner have never sexted before. It’s going to take time to get her involved, and you want to make sure she enjoys it every step of the way. Make her feel cherished, sexy and beautiful first (both on the phone and in person) before you ever try to bring up her sending you pictures.

Once she’s responding well to your sexting, you can start thinking about taking it to the next level.

How To Get Your Lover To Send Naughty Pictures

A great way to introduce her to the idea of sending naughty pictures back and forth is to first send her a sensual picture of you! No, not a penis shot, because that will probably just offend her. You’re looking for a sensual picture. Something that gets your partner’s imagination working without showing too much. A woman isn’t going to be turned on by a picture of your cock erect and stark naked. Girls respond much better to sexual innuendo instead of porn. Instead, send her something like this:

  • A picture of your erection inside your jeans
  • A shot of your happy trail with your fly unzipped
  • A photo of your chest all wet and soapy in the shower

You get the idea. Send her something that intrigues her without showing her too much and possibly offending her. The great thing about sending her a sensual picture of yourself is that she will most likely respond with something sensual for you!

Introducing Your Partner To Sending Videos

Once you’re successfully sending sexy photos of yourselves back and forth, you may be chomping at the bit to see even more. You want to see your lover in action, but how do you get her to graduate from sending stills to sending something that you can actually masturbate to?

Start by letting her know how much her photos turn you on. Give her lots of encouragement and let her know that she looks beautiful and extremely sexy in every photo that she’s sent you. Tell her that you would love to see some of that in action!

You can also entice her with the idea of making a homemade porn for you by telling her how much it would turn you on to masturbate to HER instead of to some other random woman. Let her know that you care about her and she’s the one that turns you on the most – this may very well be all you need to convince her to make you a movie. She’ll love the idea that you’d rather be watching her than someone else.

You can start by making a movie of you both having fun together. If you’re both on film, she may not be as apprehensive about it. Make sure the lighting is flattering and tell her that she doesn’t have to get naked if she doesn’t want to. Sexy lingerie can be just as titillating as full nudity and sometimes even more so!

Giving Your Lover Positive Reinforcement

Make sure that you’re giving your partner encouragement and positive reinforcement when she does send you photos or makes a movie with you or for you. If she’s not getting any positive feedback, she’s not going to get into it and she’s certainly not going to keep doing it. Don’t be afraid to tell her just how much seeing her in photos or movies gets you hot!

Make sure that when you do have sex with your partner that you take the time to give her at least one good orgasm, if not more. If she’s sending you the photos and movies that you want to see, make sure that she’s getting what she wants as well.


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