Q&A: First Threesome – Who Should It Be With?

Once you and your partner have reached a consensus on having a threesome together, the next tough step is finding someone to have a threesome with, because it needs to be someone you and your partner are both comfortable with. Here’s what you need to know to choose the best sex partner for your first threesome.

Question: If my boyfriend and I have decided to participate in a threesome, who should it be with? Should it be a close friend who is comfortable with the idea, or should it be a stranger, but a clean stranger of course?

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Not With A Close Friend

While you may be tempted to try having a threesome with a close friend who you know is comfortable with a threesome because you know them well and trust them. But having a threesome with a friend who you’ve known for a long time can potentially destroy a valuable friendship. Especially since you and your partner are new at this, you’re going to have enough on your plate without having to worry about whether your friend too. Your first threesome should be a fun new experience for you and your partner, and bringing a close friend into the mix can easily cause jealousy and frustration.

Not With A Perfect Stranger

Having a threesome with a perfect stranger may seem the way to go if you’re worried about jealousy issues, but remember – you’ll know absolutely nothing about this person. You won’t know if they’re at all compatible with you or your partner, and getting naked with a perfect stranger can be intimidating and downright weird. It can be especially uncomfortable if all three of you are inexperienced at having a threesome! And it can be downright unsafe… Just like sex between 2 people, get to know the person you’re with.

Adult Dating

If not with a friend or a total stranger, than who should your first threesome be with? Fortunately, there are a number of adult dating resources with people just like you who are looking for adult fun without any strings attached.

Adult dating websites allow you to get to know someone through email and chat, so you can determine if they’re a good match for you and your partner or not. Choose someone with a little experience with threesomes or foursomes, and make sure they’re comfortable with first timers. Make sure you lay the ground rules out first, and be sure to speak up if there’s something in particular you aren’t comfortable with before you meet them.

If online adult dating isn’t your thing, try visiting a swinger club in a larger city. Swinger clubs are great for getting your feet wet, because many people just like to watch or have sex with their own partners in a swinger environment. However you choose your first time threesome partner, make sure both you and your partner are comfortable with them and you’ve discussed your preferences up front. It will help you avoid disaster later!

And we can’t say this enough: get to know the people you’re having sex with, both for safety and for just general compatibility.

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