Dating tips can help you establish yourself as the kind of guy that all women want to be with. The biggest mistake men make when... continue reading
Dating tips can help you establish yourself as the kind of guy that all women want to be with. The biggest mistake men make when interacting with beautiful girls is talking in a monotonous, emotionless, dull “filling in time” way.
The Big Mistake
While starting conversations with ladies seems hard enough, it appears even more daunting to keep a interesting, fun conversation going.
When men hang around with their friends they laugh, make jokes, have fun and don’t take things too seriously. But for some reason, when a man finds himself interested in a beautiful woman, he usually becomes very reserved without any confidence.
He stops laughing. He stops making jokes. He stops teasing. He stops having fun. He stops flirting.
Keep The Friendly Vibe
When in the presence of a potential date, instead of keeping up the friendly vibe he has with his friends, he suddenly becomes boring. He won’t make jokes or laugh with the woman, he won’t play around like he does with his friends, and he takes things way too seriously.
Why do men change their behavior around girls? They usually don’t’ even realizing they are doing it. The reason is that men are so afraid of losing their only chance with a particular woman that they turn into “Mr. Serious,” but don’t even maintain eye contact.
Men get so nervous talking to beautiful women that they lose all creativity and can’t make interesting conversation. Fearful that they might say something rude or challenging, they resort to boring “walking on egg shells” conversations, which results in no emotion.
What Are You Afraid Of?
While men can tell you that it’s important to not be boring when interacting with women, they often don’t even realize when they’re doing it. Remember this simple law.
1. When you fear loosing a woman you become cautious
2. When you’re cautious you become serious
3. When you’re serious you become boring
4. When you’re boring women aren’t attracted
5. When women aren’t attracted you don’t get a date
Men have such a strong “I must have this girl” attitude that the more they desire a woman, the more serious and boring they become in their poor attempts to date them.
Although films and television strongly encourage the idea of begging women, it doesn’t work. These values are used to evoke emotions for the movie audience, and in people take it to heart and buy into the idea that this behavior will lead to success and a first kiss.
Don’t Live In The Movies
It always seems like Mr. Romantic is doing the right thing by standing outside a balcony window every night singing love songs, reading poetry and bringing flowers until his dream girl finally falls in love with him.
While these actions may seem romantic and work in movies, we don’t live in the movies; we live in the real world. Women can smell manipulative men ten miles away and have no respect for their child-like behavior.
Remember acting playful and silly around your brothers and sisters when you were growing up? Whether you were older or younger usually determined who was in control of the playing. If you were older, you’ll probably remember calling your siblings harmless names, hiding their toys and making them beg for them back.
But unfortunately as men grow into adults they forget their playful instincts and try to “make logical sense of everything.” Before reading this book you may have heard of the term “flirting”, but never really understood what it was or why it is necessary to attract women. As you learn the flirting techniques within this book, you’ll recall other times during your life when you behaved like this.
Remember these dating tips to bring back the fun!