There are all sorts of clichés about men picking up women in book stores but, believe it or not, it is something that can actually... continue reading
There are all sorts of clichés about men picking up women in book stores but, believe it or not, it is something that can actually happen.
Of course, meeting a woman and getting from that initial “hello” to the exchange of phone numbers and plans for a meal can be a little bit tricky. You don’t want to rush things, but you don’t want to let her get away, either.
Here are a few tips on how to meet women in book stores.
#1. Visit a large bookstore.
A mall bookstore or a small store might be right on your way somewhere, but it generally isn’t a good place to meet women. Small bookstores are cramped, usually over flowing with product and the sales people are tripping over you every couple of minutes as they offer customer service to the other customers.
If the store is busy, you can forget about even being able to approach the woman who caught your eye. Too many people will manage to get in your way and by the time you get to where she was standing, she will have moved on to a new location.
Instead opt for browsing at one of the larger bookstores like Barnes and Nobles or Borders. These stores are famous for their wide aisles, their comfortable chairs and their coffee shops.
#2. Stick to what you know
Don’t try to impress women who are reading books from sections that you normally wouldn’t set foot in. If you are into anime and she is reading the newest tome from Dr. Phil, you might not have much luck in finding a good conversation starter. If you look in the sections that you normally shop in, you have a built in way to start a conversation.
You can either mention what you’ve thought about the book she’s looking at or ask her if she might be able to recommend something since you can see that she reads the same books you do.
Obviously you could do this in another section as well, but it is risky—especially if she asks you what other books in that section you have read.
#3. Approach a wanderer
It is better to approach someone who is wandering around and looking at the shelves than it is to approach someone who is already sitting down and reading through a book. If she looks like she is very into what she is reading, it is best to leave her alone.
You don’t want to start the relationship by annoying her in the middle of a good book, do you? Plus, if you talk to a woman who is already browsing, you have the built in conversation starters discussed in #2. Of course, if stops reading to look at you, you can assume that it is okay to approach her.
#4. Take the conversation somewhere else
Move the conversation into an area better suited for conversation—the coffee shop. This is why you are in the bigger bookstore—it’s coffee shop. If you have managed to strike up a conversation with an interesting woman, it is easy to move it from the book section over to the coffee shop.
All you have to do is either turn like you are about to start walking to see if she will walk with you or, if you are feeling bold, simply say “I definitely want to keep talking about this, but I don’t want to disturb the other shoppers.
Can I buy you a cup of coffee over in the café?” And with that simple question you have moved from “picking up” the woman to your first date.
#5. Make your move
At some point you are going to have to decide if you would like to talk to this woman again and if she doesn’t ask you for your phone number or initiate plans for another get together, it is going to be up to you to get things started. It might be up to you anyway as some women still wait for the man to make the first move.
If the coffee cups are empty and you aren’t even talking about books anymore, it is time to make a plan to see her again and ask for her phone number.
These are just five simple tips you can keep in mind if you are trying to figure out a way to meet women at the bookstore. The best advice we can give you is to keep it simple. Just remember to be yourself because trying to be somebody that you are not can back fire on you very quickly in a bookstore setting.
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