What Are You Really Fighting About? It May Not Be What You Think…

Jeanie was so upset with her husband. He had always been difficult to feel physically connected to. He had always had a subtle pulling back when she would reach out to touch...

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Do You Know The Secret To Marital Bliss?

Wow! I’m so Glad I Married You! The main thing I remember about being with my ex-husband is how angry I felt all the time. I was always unhappy with him about...

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Could Your Need for Control be Ruining Your Relationship?

All of us seem to have a craving for power. We are all driven to get control over the situations we find ourselves in, and mostly, over our partners. We think to ourselves –...

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The Little Known Secret to Getting What You Want From Your Partner

Men are from Mars. Women are from Venus. Really! He leaves his things on the floor and then gripes about the house being a mess.  He doesn’t seem to get it that I want him to...

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When Fairy Tale Romance Goes Bad…

Here we are in the 21st Century. We have cell phones, Internet, microwaves and electric cars. We have more information than we can possibly absorb about everything from digging ...

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Empathizing With a Wife Beater?

Jim was a thirty-something man who was involved in a violent relationship. He was not proud of his part in the violence and had been attending an anger management group. He felt...

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The Top 10 Relationship Success Secrets That Everyone Ought to Know

As a couple’s therapist, I’ve seen a myriad of relationships styles. People who come in for counseling are clearly looking to change something they see problematic in their...

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Weathering the Storm – How to Survive Stressful Times Together

Life doesn’t always go smoothly, have you noticed that? It’s easy to feel in love and happy with your partner during times of success and relative calm.  But times like that...

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How Therapy Can Actually Destroy Your Marriage

Generally speaking we choose to go into therapy when we can’t figure out how to make our lives work by ourselves. Maybe we’ve been aware of underlying sadness that doesn’t...

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Balanced Relationships: You, Me and We

One thing I notice in a lot of couples who come through my door is a lack of balance in their relationship. What do I mean by this? When two people come together there are now...

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Healthy Relationships: Assessing the Emotional Safety

Couples seek relationship counseling for numerous reasons. As a professional who works with many different couples with a variety of issues, I’ve identified one similar thread...

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Want More Sex? Here’s how…

Regardless of what you may think. Sex happens in the brain.  Our ability to feel desire, the things that turn us on, the things that make us reach climax all happen in the brain....

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