There are a number of myths out there floating around about guys and gals, usually perpetuated by members of the opposite sex. Some have a... continue reading
There are a number of myths out there floating around about guys and gals, usually perpetuated by members of the opposite sex. Some have a bit of rooting in fact, while others don’t. Here, I debunk a few myths about males. Let’s start at the beginning.
All The Good Ones Are Taken
The problem with this one begins right there with the word “all.” We’re all guilting of a generalization once in a while, but to categorize around half the planets’ population in one statement? It’s intellectually and physically impossible! Instead, I always thought So many men, so little time. And so it was true for me. Energy flows where attention goes, right? So maybe you need to switch up your internal chitchat. You may want to consider that perhaps your belief that there are no great ones available, is simply a clever way to avoid looking at who you are being and why you attract the kind of men you do. Man up, ladies and take a good look in the mirror. You may not like what you see, but know thisuntil you do, in the long run, no one else will be able to know the true you either!
A Man Is Ruled By His Penis
Really. This may be the worlds oldest excuse for men behaving badly. Want proof? Set up an interview with one (a penis, that is). I think youll find your subject disappointing, aside from one rather impressive calisthenic move. Bring a tape recorder in case youre the one person in history that will get one to talk instead of drool. Be reminded, ladies, of the definition of mind: That which is responsible for one’s thoughts and feelings; the seat of the faculty of reason. Should any man want to argue that his penis is the seat of his faculty of reason, RUN!
All Men Only Want Sex
Again with the word “all.” It’s simply not true! If it WERE true, men would never get into relationships, never marry; heck, never leave their houses, and Vaseline stock would be worth billions. Yes, men love sex, most people do – but don’t sell yourself short.
It may very well be that you have learned (as many women do) to value your sex appeal the most about yourself, and therefore attract men who place that extremely high on their priority list. What do you value most about yourself really? What do you believe to be true about who you are? The man you attract will simply reflect this belief so get a handle on this, and check in with your archetypal seductress; maybe its time to re-group, re-prioritize and re-think what youre putting out there. Lead with sexy, get sex. Lead with your magnificent, authentic, sacred self and, believe it, youre 100 times more likely to attract the same!
Men Are Dogs
If you approach any man thinking hes a dog or someone to be trained, you are in trouble. Relationships are challenging for most of us under the best of circumstances; dont make it harder by starting out at a deficit, holding anyone youre interested in such low regard rather than in their highest light. Great relationships require a huge deal of respect to make it over the long haul. If you suspect the person you are with to be operating out of their lower nature, move on. Its the loving thing to do. We dont need to pause and let them know what we think needs to be improved, or (in detail) how we feel about the way they are choosing to be. Just notice that it doesnt jive with what you want for yourself in a partner and respectfully GO. A great definition of Love I recently heard: Let others voluntarily evolve. WOOF!
Good Guys Are Boring
If you’re a drama junkie, this might be true. So again, it’s important to know who you are, who you identify with, and what type of people you go after.
If you’re not into the drama, consider this my mother once told me something I have never forgotten: that if youre bored, youre boring. My mother taught me the lesson of a lifetime; that I am the only person responsible for my delight, my joy, my entertainment and happiness. That the party is wherever I am. I will always be grateful. So many of us women think its a mans job to manage our emotional thermostat. If you want romance, take a bath and light some candles, buy yourself some chocolate or flowers. And while you’re at it, you might want to take a hard look at your relationship history and patterns and explore your love imprint. Saying all men are boring is overly simplistic, and you may miss out on someone who is a sleeper, someone who just needs a while to warm up. Happy trails!