Q&A: Sex Positions For Plus Sizes


Finding the right sex positions that not only feel great but also work with the body type of both you and your partner can be frustrating. If you or your partner are plus size, you may not get good penetration in some sex positions and others may just be downright impossible. Here are some sex positions that work well for big boned couples, because everyone deserves a satisfying sex life!

My boyfriend and I have been having sex for a while now, and we just cant seem to get it to “work,” meaning we can’t quite get a good flow going. With me being a girl, I have trouble getting it to feel really good for an extended period of time. The problem is he is very overweight and I am a mere 120 pounds.

We are only physically capable of doing the girl on top positions, and I have trouble keeping his penis in and when it stays, I have a hard time keeping thrusts going because I have to keep his belly out of the way. Please help us we really want to improve our sexual connection with one another.

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Doggy style is a great sex position to try if one or both partners are big boned. If only he is larger, it works well because he can lay his belly on her butt to keep it out of the way and allow for deeper thrusting. If she is also larger than average, it allows her to keep her own belly out of the way during sex. Traditional missionary style sex may be difficult if both partners are larger than average because their genitals don’t always touch when facing each other chest to chest. Doggy style makes penetration and thrusting much, much easier for big boned couples.


Spooning is also a great way to overcome difficulty having sex when you’re overweight. The woman will lie in a fetal position, with the knees bent. A pillow can be put under the woman’s hips if it is comfortable. The man will kneel facing the woman and enter her, and for variety, the woman can lift her leg and place it over his shoulder.

T-Square Position

In this sex position, the woman lies on her back with legs spread apart and raised. The man lies with his hips under the arch formed by her raised legs. This allows both partners’ abdomens to be out of the way, allowing the genitals to touch without difficulty.

Try A Love Swing

A love swing – also sometimes called a sex swing – can enable you and your partner to try sex positions you never could before. Because the sex swing holds one partner up, it is easier to do more things than you can if you’re having sex on a surface like a bed or couch. Most sex swings have straps that can suspend one or both legs in different ways, allowing lots of variety for penetration and thrusting. Couples that have larger than average body types will find that g-spot orgasms are easier to achieve using a sex swing, because it holds the body at a variety of angles.

Love Swing Safety

If you do decide to invest in a sex swing, make sure they hold you and your partner’s separate weight limits, and make sure to install it correctly according to the manufacturer’s instructions. Find a sturdy place in the ceiling from which to hang the swing, such as a beam or stud – not sheet rock or drywall.

It’s Not All About Penetration

Sex isn’t all about penetration – if you and your partner have difficulty finding sex positions that are comfortable, learn to please each other in different ways. Oral sex is a great option for big boned couples that have a hard time with intercourse and thrusting. Also, try experimenting with sex toys. You can give your partner pleasure and connect with them sexually in ways other than intercourse. Don’t stress out too much about it if you and your partner can’t have sex easily. You can still have fun together!

Fun Facts

Did you know that overweight men last longer in bed? Researchers in Turkey have finished a year long study which correlates body mass index with male sexual performance. Heavier men were able to make love for an average of 7.3 minutes, while smaller men lasted only an average of 108 seconds. The study showed that overweight men had higher levels of the female hormone estradiol, which blocks male hormones and delays the climax.

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