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If you are looking to have a little fun without the drama of a relationship, a one-night stand could be the answer to your sexual rut. One-night stands can be a lot of fun if they are handled properly. When they are not handled properly both parties involved can feel used and cheap, affecting self-esteem and self-image.
Almost all men and women have had a one-night stand during their lives, but the effects of a romp in the sheets without commitment must be taken carefully. If you would like to avoid the hassles of dealing with a bad one-night stand there are some very basic rules to follow. Here are a few tips to help you out.
Keep The Drinking To A Minimum
A one-night stand can be a lot of fun, but both parties must have clear consent without the influence of substance. One of the biggest reasons that so many people wind up with a bad one-night stand on their conscious is because of alcohol. If you are going out with some friends, try to keep your mind clear. Alcohol has a way of making situations seem better than they are. It can make people seem much more interesting, physically attractive, and compatible with you. But as the alcohol starts to wear off, you will probably regret sleeping with them. Monitor your drinking and make sound decisions.
Always Have Protection
It doesn’t matter if you’re a guy or a girl, always having protection easily available is a must for casual sex. Just think to yourself, if this guy or girl is willing to have sex with me within hours of meeting, who else have they been with? This isn’t to say that exploration makes you a slut or a man-whore, but you have to keep your bases covered. STDs are running rampant nowadays and it’s very important to make sure that you protect yourself and your partner. Birth control is not a substitute for condoms. While your primary concern may be with pregnancy, the threat of STDs is real.
Keep Your Home Clean
If you’re going to bring a guy or a girl back to your place the last thing that you want is for them to see your dirty underwear or last week’s dishes in the sink. A person’s home is reflective of their personality and their health. Make sure that you pick up a little bit before you go out for the night. When a person enters your home they will take notice of how you keep it. While you might be the most hygienic person on the planet, dirt and grime around your home can easily turn a guy or a girl off. Sweep, mop, dust and wipe to have a great one-night stand.
You Have To Get Up Early
It doesn’t matter if you have the day off, a great rule to follow is that you always have to get up early. Laying this foundation before sex is essential to soothing the awkwardness in the morning. If you want to have a great one-night stand without the expectation of a relationship afterward, make a clean exit. Set your alarm and get out of the house as soon as possible. You don’t want to linger around or have the other person lingering around your home in the morning. Make up a story if you have to and actually leave your own home if you need to get the person out of your house. Drive around the block once and then come back to your house if you need to. The more time that this person spends with you is more time for mixed signals or awkwardness.
Don’t Dismiss A Real Connection
There are plenty of real relationships that have begun with one-night stands. Whether you are against this as a genuine way of starting off with your soul mate or not, it’s unfair to dismiss a real connection just because you had sex on the first date. If you really think that you see yourself with this person then contact her or him again. Women are known to get a little clingy after they have a one-night stand, but there is a difference between wanting to see this person again and latching on for dear life. If you have a genuine interest in spending more time with your one-nighter, go for it. You never know. They may feel the same way. Just make sure that you aren’t trying to keep it strictly physical if you decide to go down this path.