Strip Clubs – Befriending The Doorman, Manager And Bouncers


Strip clubs can be a great place to date hot women, but you’ll never get in good with a stripper if you don’t make friends with other club employees.

Working Your Game

Strip clubs are an excellent environment in which to practice. In this environment, a power shift takes place – it’s the guys who are the commodity, who have the power to decide which women they want to spend time with. This means no matter what the outcome of your trip to the place, you’re going to benefit as long as you take this opportunity to work on your game.

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This is also why you should never be intimidated about going alone. As long as you project a relaxed, confident vibe, strip clubs give you opportunities to chat with hot chicks, engage them in conversations, and develop your conversational skills and confidence.

Practice makes perfect, and strip clubs are an awesome way for guys to work on their game, test out new conversational techniques, and become at ease around beautiful women.

Getting To Know Staff Members Other Than The Dancers

If there is a particular club you hang out at, or intend to start hanging out at, make sure to befriend other staff members besides the doorman. Introduce yourself to the bouncers, coat check, bus boys, DJ’s, and the managers and owner, if you get the opportunity.

Meeting the manager is easy. If this is one of your local clubs, you should go ahead and do this. Tell your waitress you need to ask the manager a question, and ask her to point him out. (The manager is usually hanging out in the area, keeping an eye on things.) Approach him, introduce yourself and shake his hand, and tell him you recently started coming to the club and love the place.

What To Say

Stroke his ego a little. Tell him you’re impressed with how well-run the place is, and how the dancers and staff are a lot of fun to hang out with. Then tell him you’re interested in possibly hosting a bachelor party at the club. Ask him if they offer any special “party packages” – if you might be able rent a private room and some dancers, etc. He’ll gladly tell you about your options.

This simple, short conversation will ensure that whenever you come to this club in the future, the management is going to remember you. If you come back in the future and the manager ever inquires about your bachelor party plans, just tell him your buddy caught his fiancée screwing around with another guy and the wedding is off—but you appreciate him giving you the info.

When you visit, staff members should know and greet you. This gives you high social value in the eyes of the dancers; again, nothing about you should indicate that you’re a typical customer.

When the doormen greet you by name, and then the manager stops by your table to say hello – that is huge social proof in a strip club. If you’ve got one or two in your area that you like to go to, you must build this social proof. (Plus, when you bring your buddies there, they’ll be totally impressed.) It’s free, and it’s easy to do. Make those connections!

Getting To Know The Bouncers

Befriending a bouncer is easy, too: say, “Bro, you’re the envy of every guy—hanging out in a club full of beautiful, half-naked women and getting paid for it. You make me want to consider a career change. By the way, my name’s ______.”

Or, “Dude, I envy you. You must see some crazy shit. Hey, what is the craziest thing you ever had to kick a guy out for?”

Have a short chat. You’ve just made a new friend who could probably bench-press a Volkswagen, and will give you massive social proof the next time you arrive.

Getting To Know The DJ’s

I especially like to make friends with the DJ’s. These guys are total “insiders.” They know all the strippers and can provide you with all sorts of info. All you need to do is pay them a compliment and show some interest in what they do: “Hey, what was the last song called? That was crazy. So do you DJ anywhere else?”

You can also throw in some terminology that is easily learned on the Internet, but be careful if you do because if you’re just throwing fancy words around and don’t have a decent grasp on the subject, you’ll get outed as a phony pretty fast. You might say something like this:

“This one of the tightest sets I’ve ever heard in a strip club. The last place I went to, the DJ was trainwrecking left, right and center. The beats were all over the place. He didn’t know a crossfader from a cross-over dribble.”

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